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Say Goodbye To The Old You

That chapter is done.

The time has come to close the door to the past.  

We may have already cut toxic ties to unhealthy people and situations in our lives.  But cutting ourselves loose from our old way of being the old “us”,opens the doors of growth.

Ernest Hemingway wrote, “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man.  True nobility lies in being superior to your former self.” In fact, leaving your old self behind--the one filled with guilt, anger, hopelessness, insecurity and uncertainty--ushers in a freedom too sweet to pass up.

In fact, researchers have found concrete steps to promote lasting changes as we move forward.  These five stages of change: precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action and maintenance support our personal growth.  


In this stage we work towards an awareness of our negative patterns but don’t yet act.


With absolute clarity, we see the behaviors/patterns in our lives which no longer serve us and can envision the type of life we desire.


This is a crucial stage as our intentions to change meet action.  We know that our guilt, anger and anxiety hold us back, for example, and come up with strategies to break free.


We change our behavior.  Period.  Not another day of devaluing ourselves, nor of settling for less than we deserve.


We consistently work at maintaining our hard-won health and new way of being.  No matter the temptation, we do not run back to what has broken us.  We remain vigilant as we live our lives with greater strength and self awareness.

Indeed, saying “goodbye” to the old you requires practice and consistency in our actions, thoughts and words.  And above all else, the deeply rooted belief that change is not merely possible but right on time!

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